Category Parenting

Counselling 101: How to Manage Emotion

Lisa Feldman Barret in her book, “How Emotions are Made,” discusses the importance of emotional granulation or the ability to finely separate or nuance our emotions.  She describes how it is important to move beyond I feel “happy” or I…

What Good Parents Do…

GOOD PARENTS FRUSTRATE THEIR KIDS As parents we often play the role of rescuer.  Our anxiety grows when our child fails, feel bad, or is unhappy.  When there is frustration, hurt, or sadness we tend to rush in and rescue…

Please, frustrate your kids!

In my counselling practice I am often consulted by parents seeking counselling for their children for  being  “out of control” or “explosive.”  Sometimes,  it is not really anger that is the issue, but the inability to deal with frustration.  Here…