Be a Man.

The three most destructive words that we say to young boys…. “Be a man.” The new documentary by Jennifer Siebel Newsom of “Miss Representation”, is entitled “The Mask You Live In.” It examines how societal standards for boys and men being create emotionally detachment, among other “manly” characteristics. This has effected an … Continue reading

What Good Parents Do…

GOOD PARENTS FRUSTRATE THEIR KIDS As parents we often play the role of rescuer.  Our anxiety grows when our child fails, feel bad, or is unhappy.  When there is frustration, hurt, or sadness we tend to rush in and rescue and fix.  At times this is truly legitimate, we are … Continue reading

Let’s Talk about ADD…

The labelling of ADHD has become epidemic.   Unprecedented numbers of children and adolescents receive diagnosis and corresponding prescriptions to treat ADHD.  Our culture has brought us to the point that teachers, psychologists, doctors and even therapists have all joined the dance of pathologizing children’s behaviour, training the focus toward levels … Continue reading

Counselling Words…

In counselling I often challenge my clients to find “reminders,”  words, or maxims which will give them focus in life about really matters. Here are the maxims which I hold. To stand outside of fear. To lose righteousness. To live more consciously. To find more stillness. To listen with a … Continue reading